Monday, March 11, 2013

You’ve been worrying about __________ (fill in the blank).

Don’t waste your energy on useless emotions.

Worrying is one of many in a long list of emotions.  It doesn’t accomplish anything.  We can worry about everything from the weather, to how well we do on a test, to what we find out by going to the dentist.  Does it change anything?  No.   So why worry?

Anger is another useless emotion.  You can get mad.  But does it solve your problem.  Usually anger just triggers a knee-jerk reaction auto-response and causes MORE problems.  And it gets you upset even more.  So why do this to yourself? 

Jealousy can also be added to the list.  It is a negative emotion which is non-productive – it does not solve anything, it just aggravates.

We as humans go through a variety of emotions every day.  We hardly ever take the time to recognize the fact that worry, anger and jealousy simply bring us down.  When we allow ourselves to be consumed by these emotions and others which are not good for us, we can cause illness, disease and toxic relationships with those we engage with by carrying these emotions around. 

If we take the time to think about what we feel and address it, nipping it while it is happening before we allow it to get away from us – we can prevent a lot of these negative feeling from surfacing into our daily interactions.

Giving yourself the 10 second rule of pausing to think before you speak and reflecting on what you say before you say it is a good start.

But change requires much more than just that.

Change requires a conscious effort and shift in how  you show up in life.  You also need to think about what you are saying from two perspectives:   How does it reflect on you  vs. How does it make the other person feel.   Most people operate from a one-dimensional place. Rarely do they think about what they ask or what they state in how it affects others – they usually only operate from a selfish place of how what they say or ask serves their own agenda.

If we stay in conscious-mode of being sensitive to our environment, we have the ability to make changes in our daily interactions which are much more productive and healthy.



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