Family gatherings. A
group of friends. Co-workers. Neighbors.
Every single day we are surrounded by all kinds of relationships in our
lives. Some days there is
conflict. Some days we get along great.
But why can’t it be great all the time? Part of the reason relationships fluctuate is
there comes a time when we feel as if we cannot be our true selves. Quite often we pretend all is well. Sometimes like in the situation of a family
reunion, we tend to put up walls or hold our tongue and just get along out of
obligation as to not cause a stir.
The reality is that if we were honest about what is going
on, rather than shutting down, we would be able to get along with everyone in
our lives a lot better. When we pretend
to be ‘okay’ and we are not and we do not share what is bothering us, we tend
to build up resentment. Building up
resentment only builds walls and we eventually shut down and stop talking to
one another. We end up not talking about
the real issue and things tend to compound and we have more and more
If we took the time to discuss our problems rather than just
assuming discussions would end up in conflict or arguments, chances are we
would air out all the real issues and get to the root of them to actually have
a mature conversation to solve our problems.
When problems keep adding up, it does not help us. It only hurts us more and hurts the ones we
Taking the time to be ‘real’ and be courageous enough to be
vulnerable to share what is really going on, is the solution to letting go of
the walls, of the shells we wear out of defense. If we are truthful with how we feel and what
we think, we will find we are not alone and we actually share more common
ground than we think. It is in this
discovery and revelation we soon find that communication is the solution to
~ Athena & Tess
– We Solved It